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DJ Maul's Dancin' Cantina Party

date posted: Apr 22, 2009 12:55 PM

The Story Of My Life...

So here's the story....

My marriage has been slowly falling apart the past few years now, and it's all come to a head recently in the past several months.

I won't go in to the gory details, nor will I lay all the blame on my wife. I've made more than my fair share of mistakes in our relationship too.

The bottom line at this point is that we will probably be getting divorced within the next year or two.

Our plan (so far) is to wait until our daughter graduates high school, hopefully giving us time to plan things out financially so that they can keep our house and I can afford to move out on my own.

I'm not really looking forward to it; I've worked very hard to get where I am and a divorce will mean starting all over again with nothing.

So I have a maybe two years to start planning my future; I will probably need to find a second job soon so I can start saving for it.

I haven't even BEGUN to think about what I will do with my collection yet LOL....I do know that while I don't intend to STOP collecting I will certainly have to cut way back on how much I spend on it, so I will have to be far more selective in what I choose to buy from now on.

I don't want to have to SELL my collection either; I'm hoping that once the divorce is done my wife will allow me to keep the collection in the toy room until I find some other option.

But that's really the least of my worries at this point.

I've been struggling with the idea of even posting this for awhile now but I figure I should at least let my friends know what's going on, despite my reluctance to share my private life online.

I'm not against trying to work things out at this point, but at the moment anyway that prospect seems very dim.

I don't know how much blogging I will be doing for awhile, I really don't have anything FUN to talk about going on in my head right now, but I will try to stay in touch as best I can.

I guess I just have to try and move on, and hope for the best no matter what.

Wish me luck....I'll need it.

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	leia19886 Someone get this big walking carpet out of my way ...
date Posted: Apr 22, 2009 1:16 PM DJ - - that sucks. Please know that you have a friend in me. I hope that after all the "laundry" is done that you are ok. ((((( hugs )))) my friend

JediMelindaWolf
Try not. Do. Or do not. There is no try.

date Posted: Apr 22, 2009 2:00 PM

Oh, deej, I am so very, very sorry to hear this news. My heart goes out to you. I wish there was something I could say to you to make you feel better, but I just don't know what those magic words are. Please know, though, that I am here for you should you just need someone to talk to. I am sure your message was not easy to write, but I am so glad you did so we can offer our support.

(((((deej)))))

Take care, my friend.

MTFBWY

	comanderbly That's Impossible. Even for a Computer.
date Posted: Apr 22, 2009 2:09 PM Man thats awful news. It sounds like you are handling it well - you know the outcome you want, but you are aware things may not end up that way. So at least you have your head on straight. I hope things move along for you so you can get on with your life. MTFBWY

Jedi Master Mina
Another Galaxy, another time

date Posted: Apr 22, 2009 3:31 PM

I'm not really looking forward to it; I've worked very hard to get where I am and a divorce will mean starting all over again with nothing.

Nothing? Ha, dear friend you are more richer than you think. Instead of thinking of it as having "nothing", think of it as a "fresh start" and that a new life awaits you with exciting new experiences. The only thing to fear is fear itself.

I'm sorry that you have to go through this as I've been told by others that it's god-awful to go through, but this too shall pass and life moves on, faster than we want at times.

Jedi Master Mina
Another Galaxy, another time

date Posted: Apr 22, 2009 3:33 PM

(Con't)

Your daughter will adjust, she may be angry at times, but she will learn to forgive with time.

Do what is right for you, Deej. Life is too short to be stuck in a bad relationship. And try to find things that make you happy...like blogging about your toys. You'll be surprised at how it will heal a wounded soul.

Always remember, you've got friends to lean on in here.

	nob01 Oil Bath Bubbles
date Posted: Apr 22, 2009 3:38 PM My comment is over on GHG bud.

	jedilily1026 Years Matter Not (Gone Crazy...Be Back Soon)
date Posted: Apr 22, 2009 3:57 PM Divorce is not easy. If that's the path you must make the best of it.. Keep on blogging and collecting whenever you can. You'll see...things will get better eventually. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

	usetheforce19 MasterMonkey13
date Posted: Apr 22, 2009 4:24 PM I was really hoping this blog would end with a note that this was a joke, like you did on April Fools (you really had me tricked). I know that you will make the right decisions in this difficult time. And like the others have said above, you have friends here. God bless!

	Master Ki-Aaron-Mundi I was a Teenage Jedi
date Posted: Apr 22, 2009 5:19 PM I'm really sorry to hear this. Hang in there, and if we don't see your face around here as much in the coming months, we'll understand. It'll be great to hear from you when we can, but when you're not up for it, don't feel any guilt over not posting.

	Jedi Temple Acolyte Idealistic Crusade
date Posted: Apr 22, 2009 8:40 PM This is so hard to read, because I know personally how tragic divorce can be for everyone involved. I don't know a better way to help than to keep you in my thoughts and prayers. It's a good sign, in my opinion, that you are able to continue living together for the sake of your kid. You never know, things could change for the better.

	The Viridian Saber Virtual Unrealities (A victim of Order 66.)
date Posted: Apr 22, 2009 9:43 PM It may appear difficult now, dear friend, but I promise you that even this will pass. I am so sorry that you're going through this. You're in my thoughts. Good luck, hang tough, and may the Force be with you.

	Cousin Itt You don't know how to fix the hyperdrive...!
date Posted: Apr 23, 2009 1:37 AM Difficult times ahead indeed. I wish you the very best of luck. Hang in there... We will all be here when you return. In the meantime, you are in my thought. Good luck. MTFBWY.

	The Stooge Star Wars Joke-A-Day
date Posted: Apr 23, 2009 5:34 AM Oy. What a 200th blog... Just know that we'll be here, when you're ready to smile again. Keep strong and I hope everything works out best for all involved.

	jediprincess77 I Know...
date Posted: Apr 23, 2009 6:28 AM I'm here for you, big bro. You are such a special person to me, so I hate to see you going through something like this...but if it is the right path, it must be done. And I know you can make it through.

	ewanandhaydenfan5 I Have You Now!
date Posted: Apr 23, 2009 8:16 AM I'm so sorry! While divorce can be sad, if it's what's right for your situation, it could work out for the best. As Mina said, this could be a chance for a fresh start. Ever see City Slickers? Think of this as a "do-over". You have friends here who love you, so don't hesitate to reach out if you need anything. TFWBWY,A.

	hansgirl3 Invoking the Squee
date Posted: Apr 23, 2009 1:26 PM Like Nob, my comments are on GHG, but (((((((HUGS))))))) Can't get too many of those...

	DJ Maul: Got Feet? DJ Maul's Dancin' Cantina Party
date Posted: Apr 23, 2009 2:40 PM thank you to ALL of you, it truly does mean a lot i will keep you all posted as best I can as things develop, which may be sooner than I originally said. I will try to keep up with things here as best I can; I can certainly use some fun now and then for sure.

	Gidrea Lightsky The Galaxy According to Gidrea
date Posted: Apr 23, 2009 3:02 PM The Force is with you Deej, and so are we!

	jkthunder Seven Pieces
date Posted: Apr 23, 2009 8:06 PM ((Deej)) It will get better. For all of you. The blog is here for you if you need it, and it's a great way to get out of your own head for awhile, or to clean it out.

	Darth_Hiram A Journey into The Force
date Posted: Apr 23, 2009 9:50 PM I'm so sorry to hear about that Deej, and I wish all the best for you. Stay strong, and we'll be here for you.

	megatrends Confessions of a Psychotic Jawa
date Posted: Apr 24, 2009 1:45 PM You need to get out and have some fun for yourself right now. Maybe go see a ballgame or something.

	gold5 I lost Tiree, lost Dutch!..or How I learned to stop worrying and love the Death Star.
date Posted: Apr 25, 2009 2:15 PM Wow! That's a downer! Best wishes to both of you in whatever your futures hold. It's not good but if you both feel the need for this and to go in different directions then it is for the best for you both. Good Luck!

	Darth_Buir Together we can rule the galaxy as father and son.
date Posted: Apr 28, 2009 9:06 AM Hi, I'm so sorry to hear what you're going through. It sounds as if you are both trying to be reasonable and to remain amicable, I hope this remains the case for all your sakes.

	viagoangel2 Were Anakin and Padme' really one?
date Posted: May 04, 2009 8:58 PM (((Deej))) "That first step you take is the longest stride." As Mina said, "This too shall pass.." Trust me, I'm living proof of that my friend Remember, anything you may need...Anything at all, I'm here for you...We all are MTFBWY...always Angel B.

	Qui-Tom Servo loves Padme You Must Unlearn What You Have Learned
date Posted: Jun 08, 2009 11:41 AM I'm sorry to hear this DJ. I hope that everything works out for you. Good luck.

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