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So my blog from earlier tonight was this huge rant about school. It really isn't that bad. I love it. It was just me getting aggression out in another form seeing as how if I take it out on the object of my aggression, I'd get thrown in jail.
I need an objective opinion from people that I don't know and don't really know me that well, or know any of my friends. What really sucks is when all of your friends know each other and are all friends. Eventually what you say to one person about somebody else eventually gets back to that person.
So I know this isn't Star Wars, but over the summer, I've gotten to enjoy reading some of your blogs and knowing some of you (VA2, Jedililly, PS77...you are awesome!) and you've all been through experiences that I know I haven't. So here it goes.
My roomie and I met this guy, same day, roughly same time. We both like him. Problem is, she has this thing that if she doesn't get her way she'll be grumpy and miserable and make everyone else pay for it...so basically if she doesn't get her way...no one is happy. My problem is, I've always been the one to play the best friend, not the girlfriend. It's become such a habit that I haven't had a bf since the first week of 8th grade...that was 8 years ago. So I was the nice one and told her that she could pursue him and whatever. But see, I think he might like me over her. And I mentioned that to her. She kinda ignored my comment and walked away. I'm so confused about all of this stuff. The whole relationship thing is a game I don't know how to play cause I've been out of it for so long. AAHHH!!!!
HELP!!!!
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Japanese Fett
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date Posted: Aug 28, 2006 9:39 PM
Well, hmm. What you need to do is make the guy you like make him want to ask you out. That's it! Simple!  Well, I'm a boy and if a girl likes me, I'm gonna ask her out! 
Sayonara, & MTFBWY
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Jedi Master Mina
Jedi blogging, go back to your drinks!
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date Posted: Aug 28, 2006 10:10 PM
See here's the thing...do I risk losing the friendship over the guy...seeing as how she's my roommate too.
A "true" friend does not play jealous games. My advice, young one, is that if this guy really likes you, than ask him out. Forget what your friend thinks. The one thing I've learned is that people come and go in your life. She is in your life at this moment, but could be gone tomorrow. Live for the moment, for we do not know what tomorrow may bring.
BTW, roommates come and go...Also, don't tell her anymore about your encounters with this guy. Less information is better in this case.
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independentjac
"How long can any man fight the darkness, before he finds it in himselft?"
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date Posted: Aug 28, 2006 11:15 PM
not that you would want advice from a 14 year old who has never had a GF but my advice is, tell your roomie my plan first, if she gets pissed, screw her and do it anyway. ask the guy out, if he says yes, go out with him and we are all happy, because you give dibs to next guy you meet to her, even if he is ben afflec, or whoever you girls like now. if he says no, tell him your roomie likes him and he will possibly ask her out. then you were wrong about telling her he liked you over her.....like it? I do
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greenandwhitejedi
Bar 66
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date Posted: Aug 29, 2006 3:03 AM
independentjac displays a stunning degree of insight into the female mind 
I say go for it. If your roomie is supposed to be your friend then she should be happy for you (or at least act it), and if not then I would suggest that she is not such a good friend at all. Be sure not to crow if you get the guy, especially if you have to stay with your current roomie for the whole year.
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jedi_iain
From A Certain Point Of View
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date Posted: Aug 29, 2006 4:23 AM
All is fair in love and war (or so I've heard)
I say tell this guy how you feel, as Mina said roommates come and go
just tell the guy, this blog could be the Force's way of nudging you down the right path.
Go for it!
Good Luck, And May The Force Be With You!
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jedilily1026
Years Matter Not (Gone Crazy...Be Back Soon)
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date Posted: Aug 29, 2006 4:54 AM
Problem is, she has this thing that if she doesn't get her way she'll be grumpy and miserable and make everyone else pay for it...so basically if she doesn't get her way...no one is happy. She seems kind of spoiled. Ask yourself how long have you known her? How long have you been friends? If she just your roommate it doesn't mean she's your best friend.
You like him and she likes him. If you were interested in him you shouldn't have told her to go for it. You should not have stepped aside.
If it was me and she was a true friend, I would let the guy decide, after some heavy flirting on my part I mean. No matter what, I would let the guy decide. 
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confusedone
I have the fear of being afraid and I'm on strike against strikes
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date Posted: Aug 29, 2006 6:32 AM
Now you see, when you have a problem like this you take it to Dr.Phil. However, since you can't you'll just have to settle it yourself. I have no idea what kind of adice I have, so go with Mina. She sounds very confident in her answer. And the only thing I can contribute is: : "I don't know what the key to success is, but the key to failure is trying to please everyone."
That's a great quote and very true. IMO, you should grab the guy, leave the roomie. Hehehehe, just a little "Godfather". Good luck and don't forget to tell us what happens. 
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comanderbly
That's Impossible. Even for a Computer.
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date Posted: Aug 29, 2006 7:33 AM
Patience. Think about whats really important. And take Jedi Master Mina's advice about friends to heart. This relationship may have a negative impact on your living situation. Your friend might make the relationship itself complicated by her jealousy. Just try and get a basic idea of what you are getting yourself into. In the end there really is no logic to matters of the heart. My wife and I moved in together after 2 months of dating - its worked out pretty well . But that does not mean we did not sit down and think about the risks and all that stuff. At some point you just have to take a shot.
How's that for a non-answer!
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gold5
I lost Tiree, lost Dutch!..or How I learned to stop worrying and love the Death Star.
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date Posted: Aug 29, 2006 9:06 AM
How good a friends are you? She seems a little self obsessed. Go to the guy ask who he likes better. If it is you then go for it. Why should he have to settle for the second choice just because you didn't want to rock the boat. Mina is right in five or ten years your aquaintences of today will dissappear into the past. This guy may be the one to be there for you till death do you part so to speak. You won't know unless you find out. It only gets harder to find someone after college. Go for it while you can.
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viagoangel2
Were Anakin and Padme' really one?
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date Posted: Aug 29, 2006 9:10 AM
The whole relationship thing is a game I don't know how to play cause I've been out of it for so long. AAHHH!!!!
Bingo! There's your answer. Oh my dear....you are so young to worry about such things. If this girlfriend of yours is a TRUE friend, then boys should never be an uncomfortable situation. Just to give you a little heads up on future relationships with friends from school.....they don't last. I have one TRUE friend that has stuck with me from the time we were 5, just ONE. and GUYS were never an issue, if she liked someone....I left it alone. Her friendship was most important and still is.
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viagoangel2
Were Anakin and Padme' really one?
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date Posted: Aug 29, 2006 9:13 AM
So you need to decide how SECURE your friendship is with this roomie of yours, is she worth the loss....sounds to me that it's all about HER and not about US (as in friendship)
Like MINA said, friends and GUYS come and go....nothing in Life is GURANTEED....even appliances have LOOPHOLES my friend. We loves ya, whatever you decide we support you. ~Angel~
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viagoangel2
Were Anakin and Padme' really one?
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date Posted: Aug 29, 2006 9:16 AM
but over the summer, I've gotten to enjoy reading some of your blogs and knowing some of you (VA2, Jedililly, PS77...you are awesome!)
You are to kind and soooooooooooooooooo SWEET. You should go after what you WANT most in life, you may never get a second chance......
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ewanandhaydenfan5
I Have You Now!
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date Posted: Aug 29, 2006 10:04 AM
I agree with most everyone here, especially comanderbly and gold5. Relationships are complicated, but some things are simple. Friends are happy for each other and don't make others suffer because they're envious. Remember, as a wise green muppet said, "Jealousy is the shadow of greed." And greed is a path to the dark side.
I agree with jedilily1026 about letting the guy decide. I say this from experience: if he decides on you, if your friend is truly your friend, she won't let her feelings get in the way. If she does, you don't need friends like that. Good luck, and please let us know what happens.
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padmeskywalker77
Padme's Legacy
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date Posted: Aug 29, 2006 10:28 AM
I've been out of the "game" for a little while now (because of grad school), and am just waiting to "jump in" again. However, from my previous experiences, "friends" who act jealous over everything and who have to have everythiing *their way or the highway*, at least for me, are really not my friends. I agree with those who said to ask yourself how important this friendship is to you, and just how close you two are. If she is a fairly new acquaintance and you are not that close of friends, then there should be no problem with you talking with the guy to find out what and who he really wants (you or her).
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padmeskywalker77
Padme's Legacy
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date Posted: Aug 29, 2006 10:28 AM
Let him know how you feel (or put your "feelers" out for him) and let him decide, as jedilily said. And, as Mina and angel said...friends and guys come and go, but you are "stuck" with yourself. You should decide what would make you most happy and then do it. And, depending if you live in a Dorm, you could always try and change rooms and/or roommates if things don't work out between you two
but over the summer, I've gotten to enjoy reading some of your blogs and knowing some of you (VA2, Jedililly, PS77...you are awesome!)
Awww....how sweeeet of you. Thank you sooo much. Again, you must do what makes you happy...second chances do not come around every day.
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haydens_girl1
Star Wars...just a little, only a lot...and then some. Times 2!
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date Posted: Aug 30, 2006 6:58 PM
I'd like to thank everyone for their comments and for supporting me whole heartedly. Things are still currently up in the air and I can't give anyone any answers as to how things are going to play out. As soon as I know anything, I will post a new blog and let all of you know.
Love always
Jessica
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