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Star Wars...just a little, only a lot...and then some. Times 2!

date posted: Feb 23, 2007 9:24 PM

I feel like I'm a horrible person

So this whole semester has been tough. Not school tough...friend tough. Last year my best friend and I decided that we were gonna live together this year. Well the first semester started out well and then went downhill near the end of the semester. This semester is about halfway over, and it's gotten to the point where I really can't stand her anymore. I really didn't want it to get to this point, but it did. Tonight my roommate and I sat down with her and told her how we felt. She's at a much younger maturity level than us and she overreacts to almost anything. So we told her (well more me) that we didn't want to live with her next year. I feel bad about it cause I didn't want to hurt her, but we knew it would come to it. I eased her into it for about 10 minutes then I broke the news to her. She cried, and one of our friends took her out to be away from us. I talked to my mom about it just now and she said that Sara's problems are not mine and I have to remember that and try to ignore things that aren't my problems. Goddess knows I have enough on my plate to deal with. I don't need anyone else's problems to deal with.

It's just so hard. And I hate the way things happened.

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Sarlacc-Pitt
Slowly Digested Over A Thousand Blogs

date Posted: Feb 23, 2007 9:59 PM

It's just so hard. And I hate the way things happened

As a young person, it seems you are dealing with something in life that all too often happens, and is a big part of growing up....confronting issues. As a person who is alot older than you, I can tell you that you did the right thing. With compassion and respect, you confronted this person and dealt with the problem, and you should be very proud of yourself! Besides, I think the world will go on turning, and she will deal with her stuff, your Mom is right! (they usually are!)

	haydens_girl1 Star Wars...just a little, only a lot...and then some. Times 2!
date Posted: Feb 23, 2007 10:11 PM she will deal with her stuff I wish that it would be how it goes, but she still hasn't completely grown up. She hasn't had the experiences that make you grow up, and my roomies and I have. I just hope that she can accept it and move on. We still want to be friends with her...but we'll see how that goes.

jkthunder
Seven Pieces

date Posted: Feb 23, 2007 10:29 PM

I'm sorry you have to go through this, but almost everyone does eventually, especially in the college years. Living with friends is very hard, even though it seems like a great idea before hand.

I can so relate to that. You have to deal with your own stuff. Don't ever feel bad about that. It's hard when the people you live with don't know how to take care of themselves, and depend on you for it.

Good luck. It's all for the better.

	eddie Obsessive Fanboy Eddie and his Timeline Chronicles
date Posted: Feb 23, 2007 10:47 PM Yep, Sarlacc-Pitt and jkthunder are right. And I agree with you that growing up isn't always that easy (I am 38 myself now, and had to learn the hard way a few times too, when I was in my late teens-early twenties). Your friend will know how to deal with it, just give her the time.

	Sarlacc-Pitt Slowly Digested Over A Thousand Blogs
date Posted: Feb 23, 2007 11:00 PM I wish that it would be how it goes, but she still hasn't completely grown up. She hasn't had the experiences that make you grow up This is a perfect example of one of those experiences....

padmeskywalker77
Padme's Legacy

date Posted: Feb 24, 2007 6:01 AM

You shouldn't feel like a bad person...things could not be helped here. I have also had my fair share of problems with roommates, and I learned that I cannot make everyone happy and that they need to work through their own problems. Sometimes my relationship with the "offending" individual improves after a time, and sometimes it does not. We all learn and grow with these situations, and hopefully she will too.

Best of luck

	21212121212 "So be it.......21212121212"
date Posted: Feb 24, 2007 7:51 AM If you really feel so guilty about telling her about your future lifestyle, then maybe you should apologize and give a last chance. List some things you want her to improve on, and give her frequent warning and reminders that "this is your last chance". May the Force Be With You

Jedi Master Mina
Jedi blogging, go back to your drinks!

date Posted: Feb 24, 2007 8:39 AM

I talked to my mom about it just now and she said that Sara's problems are not mine and I have to remember that and try to ignore things that aren't my problems.

It's also called keeping your nose in your own 40 acres. That is the best advice any mother can give to her child!!

From my experience, friends come and go, but only a few will remain with you throughout your life time.

It's just so hard. And I hate the way things happened.

I know, honey, just be careful who you call your friend. It's all part of learning and growing into the young adult you are to be!!

DJ Maul: Got Feet?
DJ Maul's Dancin' Cantina Party

date Posted: Feb 24, 2007 9:07 AM

Its far better that you did what you did NOW, in a calm and rational manner, than to let the situation continue until it stressed you out so much that things could have eventually gotten UGLY.

And the fact that you feel BAD about possibly hurting this girls feelings shows that at least your are not a callous, uncaring person.

You may not feel in NOW, but you did the right thing.

	viagoangel2 Were Anakin and Padme' really one?
date Posted: Feb 24, 2007 7:22 PM Oh, how sad. I'm so sorry that you had to go through such an ordeal, such is life. Things will look better soon, promise. One day at a time, she'll be fine and move on and so will you. Wish you the Best in all that you do. ~Angel~

	JediMelindaWolf Try not. Do. Or do not. There is no try.
date Posted: Feb 24, 2007 9:52 PM Good luck, hg. You did the right thing, and it sounds like you handled the situation in a calm, respectful manner. It can be extremely challenging to live with a friend. Good friends seldom make good roommates. In time, and with your coming separation, I hope your friendship can be strong once again. MTFBWY

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