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Tales from the Death Star
date posted: Jan 31, 2008 11:35 AM  |  updated: Jan 31, 2008 11:54 AM
The Last Hug
We've all watched it, we've all heard the emotional music backing it.

Anakin is walking away from his home on Tatooine with Qui-Gonn when he turns and runs back to his Mother for the last hug he will ever get from her in their life time.

What if it were your son... would you let him go?

I have been thinking about this scene since this morning when my ex called to ask "did you hear about the child who died on a bus yesterday?".

By the time I got into work, I had an email from our fellow blogger, DPM, with the details.

Apparently a kingergartener, just having left his school for the bus ride home, began choking on something that the article called an "unidentified object - not food related". (UPDATE: It has just been released that the boy choked on a thumb-tack he had used for a project at school.) The bus driver did all he could - stopping the bus as soon as he was aware of the issue (the child sitting next to the little boy told him what was going on) and dialing 911. As it would be, the bus stopped just a few hundred yards from the central fire station who was quick to respond - and only a few streets away from the boys home.

The little boy was taken by ambulance to the hospital with his Mom and younger brother escorted behind it in a police cruiser.

After two hours, the boy was indeed pronounced dead much to the dismay of the hospital workers, the rescue crew, the bus driver and, worst of all, his family. He was only 5.

So, you wonder, why I am I sharing this with you?

Well, I know that there are other Mom's and Dad's out there like me who, in the hustle and bustle of their busy morning schedule, rush our kids to get everything done, get out the door and off to school and work so that we are not late. Sometimes we give our kids that one last kiss or hug before they get on the bus but, sometimes that opportunity is missed... in this case, never to be had again.

Perhaps in honor of this little boy, who's life had barely begun, we could hold our sons and daughters for just an extra minute at bedtime tonight... and then, make sure to hug and kiss them before they leave for school tomorrow morning.

Life is so precious.... and so very short.

Thanks for visiting today. I will leave a box of tissues near the door for you on the way out.

xoxo





  Smuggler Jedi
Hokey Religions and A Good Blaster at My Side
date Posted: Jan 31, 2008 11:50 AM
I am seriously depressed now.

Interesting timing though. I got my 3 year old up this morning, and things were going well. When it was time to finally get him out the door, he began to drag his teeth and he threw a bit of a tantrum. It got ugly. However, before I let my wife drive off with him, I made sure I gave him a kiss on the head and in the most cheerful way possible, I told him that I couldn't wait to see him tonight and wanted to play. His eyes lit up and his smile exploded across his face.

Nothing has happened to him. I've checked on him via the webcam at his daycare, but having read this story, I'm glad I left things the way I did this morning.
Jade Sabre777
A luminous being, I am...
date Posted: Jan 31, 2008 12:28 PM
:_| That is so sad!!! *makes good use of the offered tissues* It definitely makes you take another look at the way you do things.

What if it were your son... would you let him go?
Ooo, I don't know. I'd like to think that I'd do anything to give him a better life, but I know part of me would be (understandably) selfish and want to keep him with me.
jediprincess77
I Know...
date Posted: Jan 31, 2008 1:21 PM
Oh my goodness...what a heartbreaking situation. :( You call is inspiring as well. I hope everyone does hug their kiddos a little bit longer today.

What if it were your son... would you let him go?

Shmi was willing to put aside all of her other mothering instincts for Anakin's happiness. The amazing moms that I know want only one thing more than they want to be with their children-- for them to be happy.

I will leave a box of tissues near the door for you on the way out.
*sniff* Thanks.
jedilily1026
Years Matter Not (Gone Crazy...Be Back Soon)
date Posted: Jan 31, 2008 1:43 PM
I have 2 sons...one is 35 the other 30. They both live in Puerto Rico and I don't get to see them hardly...but one is coming to visit Feb 17 I sure hope he gets here. I really do need those tissues. Thanks.

Shmi was brave in letting her son go and at such an young age. But since it was for her son's good...I see her reasoning even if I am not capable of feeling the way she did being brave enough to let him go. I believe a child will never happier than with his Mom.

All my life I have always felt that being with ones Mom (no matter what age the child is) means nothing bad can ever happen to you. After all, a Mother's love and protection is like no other. B-)
  comanderbly
That's Impossible. Even for a Computer.
date Posted: Jan 31, 2008 2:26 PM
Oh man that's really awful and tragic. I know life is short - but that's too short!

What if it were your son... would you let him go? I am not a parent yet, but I would like to think I will be as strong as Shmi, but that its very hard. Maybe I'll let my wife make that call. ;)
nob01
Oil Bath Bubbles
date Posted: Jan 31, 2008 3:14 PM
It sucks when bad stuff happens to little kids - that story is heartbreaking.

Shmi knew her son was going to a better life, and was willing to let him go - she made the ultimate sacrifice. Made with love.
leia19886
Someone get this big walking carpet out of my way ...
date Posted: Jan 31, 2008 5:15 PM
wipes tears :_|

Shmi was one hell of a lady:)
She was one example of un-conditional love!
The Stooge
Star Wars Joke-A-Day
date Posted: Jan 31, 2008 5:20 PM
That's incredibly sad... but your lesson was very moving -- I'll certainly take a little bit of Shmi with me from now on.
  Jay-DubJinn748
date Posted: Jan 31, 2008 6:47 PM
That's so sad :(

When I have kids of my own, even when I don't feel like or am in a bad mood, I'm gonna do my very best to love on them as much I can and never take them for granted.

Thanks for the blog!

As a matter of fact, I think I'm going to call my mom and dad right now! :x :)
amidalooine
The Emotional Galaxy
date Posted: Jan 31, 2008 6:58 PM
Horribly sad story, WoV.

I often think I couldn't be as strong as Shmi was, but I don't know. I remember hanging out with (my Army friend) Russell the last day he was here before he left for what would eventually be Iraq...where he died. I remember that hug. Well. I remember thinking my heart would break...and he wasn't even the son of my body.

Russell would have been 23 today.
JediMelindaWolf
Try not. Do. Or do not. There is no try.
date Posted: Jan 31, 2008 7:49 PM
oh my gosh, wov. what a story!

it's true what you say . . . sometimes we get lost in the hustle & bustle of life . . . never expecting the worse . . . never knowing what chance occurrences can change our lives like a flick of a switch . . .



If I was Shmi, I would have let Anakin go, knowing that it was the best thing for him. I've done it with padawan # 1, and I know I'll have to do it with padawan # 2 before long.

I cherish every moment I have with them. They are all too fleeting.

I'll take that tissue now.

MTFBWY
Sarlacc-Pitt
Slowly Digested Over A Thousand Blogs
date Posted: Jan 31, 2008 8:32 PM
Completely tragic....
  ketal13
HanAnWan
date Posted: Feb 01, 2008 9:39 AM
How extremely sad. This is the fourth death I've heard about regarding a child this week--each time I break down and sob for each child whose lives were lost far too soon.
I always give my sons a hug, sneak in a kiss and tell them I love them anytime we are going to be apart, even at night, just in case, heaven forbid, something ever happened, then our last words could always be remembered and cherished.
MomOf2YoungPadawan
Mamadala's Lair
date Posted: Feb 01, 2008 1:48 PM
Life is indeed way too short - and whenever life ends so suddenly for one so young, it is even more heartwrenching.

It is so easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of everyday life - this story reminds us to love on those precious ones in our lives!!

I am such a worry wart myself - I am always hugging, kissing and loving on my two boys. I worry about them, but I sometimes worrry about myself - having had a brain hemorrhage two years ago, I have been way too close to the edge. My husband is a dairy farmer - one of the most dangerous jobs in the world - and I always make sure to tell him I love him whenever he walks out the door.

MomOf2YoungPadawan
Mamadala's Lair
date Posted: Feb 01, 2008 1:50 PM
As far as being Shmi...wow...it would be so incredibly difficult to let your only son leave you. But, given their situation, it was obvious what the best choice for him was at that point.

Thanks for the tissues *sniff-sniff!*
  Oboe-Wan
Oboe-Wan's Hive of Scum & Villainy
date Posted: Feb 01, 2008 6:27 PM
I NEVER ever let Padawan-Wan go into the school yard each morning w/o a big hug, a kiss & an "I love you." Every morning. No matter how difficult the morning routine proceeded, no matter the tantrums or arguing. I do the same at bedtime - I want the last thing he hears every night to be "I love you."

The story of this little boy on the bus is heartbreaking... I would never be the same if anything happened to my baby boy. He's 6, in kindergarten, so this hits home.

What if it were your son... would you let him go?
I would hope that if I were enslaved & my son had a chance at a better life, I'd have the courage to let go. But I'd still appreciate that last hug he so willingly gives out.
  vadersgirl33
vadersgirl_reflections
date Posted: Feb 02, 2008 9:05 PM
:_| :_| . I cried reading this. Thanks for the tissues.

I make sure I tell my kids good bye before they go off anywhere. Never know what may happen. Life is too unpredictable.

vadersgirl33
padmeskywalker77
Padme's Legacy
date Posted: Feb 03, 2008 11:34 AM
This is truly one tragic story. :( In my work I see kids leave this world prematurely all the time...and it's never easy. I always say that the day I don't cry when a child dies is the day I need to leave my profession!!

To this day, my mom always gives me a good-bye hug before I leave my parents' house or they leave my place...and she always has me call her when I get home, just to let her know that I made it safely...I am now 31 years old.

What if it were your son... would you let him go?

It would be difficult for me to do, but, if it meant a better life for him, I would do it. I do not have children yet, but I hope that I can be as strong when that day comes.
  Lady Shada
Shada's Thoughts
date Posted: Feb 25, 2008 6:31 AM
I may not have children, but I do think of this everytime I say goodbye to one of my close family members. A hug, a short peck on the cheek and, "I love you" doesn't take long to say. And it could mean wonders. You just never know.

Nicely written. :)
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